Love is NOT Proud

Love is not proud….

Pride is probably the leading cause of the loss of love. I always try to love with humility because that’s how Jesus wanted us to love. I tend to value people more than myself and I’m always so excited for other people’s accomplishments, especially those closest to me, and I never let pride get in the way of Loving someone to the fullest…. because why waste precious moments being proud when I can enjoy them instead and just be humble.

Pride is basically thinking better of yourself or what is yours. Many times it’s thinking ourselves only right. So when we spend more time thinking of only ourselves better or right where does it leave room for love God or others? 

“In his pride the wicked man does not seek him; in all his thoughts there is no room for God.”

Psalm 10:4 NIV

When I use to get into quarrels with my best friend I hated to waste time being proud even if I thought myself right I’d let it go for sake of love and joy…. I would have only wasted precious time of our friendship being proud… pride only gets in the way. And if I spent more time thinking myself better I would have a lot less friends and much worse relationships with my family. Pride only gets in the way. 

God through the wisest man he made once wrote…

“Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.”

Proverbs 16:18 NIV

“When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.”

Proverbs 11:2 NIV

“Pride brings a person low, but the lowly in spirit gain honor.”

Proverbs 29:23 NIV

I’d rather be humble and remember like NKJV says “love is not puffed up” instead I’d rather be someone else’s cheerleader. But most of all I’d rather puff up God… He is the only one worthy.

And yet God is Love and so He wasn’t too proud to come in human form make himself like man and not only that he came in the most humble of ways and lived such a humble life… Him being God… and the He died the worst of deaths… because of love for us. He came to serve us. He came to save us. He didn’t waste time being right or better. He knows He’s always right He knows He is infinitely better than all of us or anything… but because of love and our joy He humbled himself and thought of us first.

“In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death— even death on a cross!”

Philippians 2:5-8 NIV

 So in all relationships with others and especially with God let us cast out all pride and let us embrace humility just like Jesus did! Let us love like Him!

Love does NOT Boast

Love does not boast…..

NKJV says love does not parade itself…. what a funny thought isn’t it?  Yet I think we have all failed in this form at one point or another. I hope we have repented and returned to letting God be the love within us loving everyone around us.  But if we have then we know that a love that parades itself or boasts then is not love for others but a love for ones self only. 

It is nothing more than vanity. 

I know I have been accused of vanity before… mostly because I like to take care of my appearance or because my perfectionist gene tries to take over and I try to do things the best I can… I especially love doing this when it comes to the things of God because He deserves my best…but nonetheless these things are sometimes seen as vanity in me so I work hard to show the humility Jesus has taught me in all areas of my life. But I do portray a lot of confidence and strength so most of the time it’s hard for people to see it with the naked eye… especially if they don’t know me too well… so I work even harder because my goal is always for others(everyone) to see Jesus in me… not me! See my goal is not to parade myself and my great deeds or my perfection… it’s to fully show Gods. 

See in reality I think just like Paul when he says..

“To me, who am less than the least of all the saints, this grace was given, that I should preach among the Gentiles the unsearchable riches of Christ,”

Ephesians 3:8 NKJV

For that’s precisely what we have been called for… not to boast about ourselves but about all the great and wonderful things God has done. But in our humanity we many times fail and we forget about Jesus and only see ourselves and the things of this world which is why the psalmist writes…

“For the wicked boasts of his heart’s desire; He blesses the greedy and renounces the LORD.”

Psalms 10:3 NKJV

When we become selfish, greedy and only follow our own hearts desires all we can accomplish is to hurt ourselves and also those around us. See many times by boasting about ourselves we bring others down and that is not at all what God wants from us… He wants for us to love one another and build each other up. 

[ I love the idea of being good at everything but I never pray for it because I know it would be no good for me to be so because God has created us all uniquely with our own gifts and talents so that we can ALL praise Him]

Let us leave behind our wicked ways and let us walk righteously as the creation of our great God because when we do then just like the psalmist we are able to say…

“In God we boast all day long, And praise Your name forever. Selah”

Psalms 44:8 NKJV

We are the creation of God… made to worship Him in everything and with everything.

So the word says Love (God) does not boast, or parade itself, well because God doesn’t need to worship Himself… He created, saved and will come for us for that! 

 God deserves all the glory at all times. How can He not? He created you… and He didn’t stop there He also saved you, gave Himself completely for us, so in turn can we not do the same for Him… and what’s more He wants us to join Him for an eternity in His peace and paradise but we can only obtain this if we stop boasting about ourselves and we start boasting Him instead.

 Accept Jesus in your heart and let love in!

Love does NOT Envy

Love does not envy!…

It wasn’t until it came time for me to write this particular message that I realized what a big vise this was for me… sounds so simple doesn’t it? Love does not envy… did I realize what I was saying? I did envy…. and so it stopped me on my track. I asked God how do I write this message and to be completely honest for a long time I couldn’t. See for me it wasn’t that I was envious of a certain person or of certain specific things… it was everything…Everything! I realized in one of my Sunday school lessons as I was teaching my students about Lot and Abraham that I was like Lot and always seemed to me that everyone’s pasture was greener… ever heard that saying “the pasture is always greener in the other side” oh I’ve heard it all my life and it wasn’t until then that I realized how much I thought just like that. I envied other ppls spouse, I envied other people’s children, I envied other peoples family, I envied other people’s careers, I envied other peoples living conditions and the list goes on and on… and again not specific people and it’s not specific things but everything I don’t have. 

 I think this is the biggest lesson we need to learn sometimes…. to be grateful for what we have, and not just be grateful, but fully understand that what we have comes from God so He gives what we have with a purpose and what He doesn’t as well. 

Yes there will always someone who is having it better than us but there will always also be someone who is off worse than us. 

God is love and only wants what’s best for us we always need to keep this in mind. He gave us the commandment in exodus to not covet that which is our brothers. And then in…

“Jesus said to him, “ ‘You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.””

Matthew 22:37-40 NKJV

And then…..

“Owe no one anything except to love one another, for he who loves another has fulfilled the law. For the commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not bear false witness,” “You shall not covet,” and if there is any other commandment, are all summed up in this saying, namely, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no harm to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfillment of the law.”

Romans 13:8-10 NKJV

See God gives us His word because He always knew what would be best for us and how deceiving our own hearts could be…. so gave us His law and His grace and His love…. because He knew that if we were allowed to covet and to envy we would never reach true joy in Him.

Most people just want to be happy they just don’t know how to go about it. God did. 

So He gave us the best strategy and game plan…. He traced the perfect path for us through Jesus. 

  1. Love Him
  2. Love others 
  3. Let Him (Love) live in us 

In our own human “love” we won’t be able to fulfill this “love does not envy” part but when we let God, who is true LOVE, live in us He and reign in us He can. 

So the moment I decided to love like Him and let Him love though me was the moment I truly became free from all envy…. yeah life is hard and things aren’t always easy and we can’t have all we want but even so God (love) is always with us and He gives us what we need with a purpose for His glory and honor and His will. When we can see it this way we gain joy and peace and true gratitude for the things we have and the things we don’t. Because…“Now godliness with contentment is great gain.”

I Timothy 6:6 NKJV

Be content with what you have and you will gain true joy. And true LOVE!

Love is Kind

“… love is kind…”

1 Corinthians 13:4 NIV

Love is kind- I’ve always wanted to think of myself as kind but upon composing this message I had to question myself as to weather that was true. Am I really kind? Do I know what it is to truly be kind? The word kind in the dictionary means : having a good nature or way of behaving; compassionate; considerate or helpful; humane; of a good or benevolent nature or disposition, as a person. So I proceeded to ask myself am I of good nature? Do I behave good? Am I compassionate?  Am I considerate of others? Am I truly helpful? Humane? And then I got stuck in benevolent nature. See for the most part I was all those other things all my life I have strived to be the best kind of human to be good natured to please God and others. I even have my best friend who doesn’t like that I never say no. My best friend tells me that it’s ok not to help in everything and do everything for others because along the path I will burn myself out and not allow them or it grow to it’s full potential. I laugh when told this because it really truly is hard for me to say no but I have learned that sometimes no is a greater kindness. Like when God says no to something…. it’s because He wants what’s best for us.

So it brought me back to that word I got stuck on- benevolent. I had only heard it truly to describe the type of God we have. So what is it to be benevolent? Well I went back to my dictionary and it said almost all the same things as kind (no surprise there) benevolent: desiring to help others: characterized by or expressing goodwill or kindly feelings: desiring to help others; charitable: intended for benefits rather than profit.  But what stood out to me was that last part “intended for benefits rather than profit”. And yeah God isn’t just nice and helps us but does everything He does, the good and what we think is bad, for our benefit not trying to reap any profit other than one day having us there with Him for eternity.

So all of this took me to think of one of my favorite verses that has really kept me going on rough or complicate days. 

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”-Jeremiah 29:11 NIV

Our God, and God is Love, is the true essence of kindness and benevolence because He loves us so much that He plans only good things for us, things that will make us prosper, things that will give us hope and increase our faith, things that will help our future both here on earth and our great future with Him in eternity. God only desires to help you and has had such great compassion for your soul that His kindness extended to dying on a cross to give you the benefit of salvation. Yeah you may be in the dark right now and going through some tough times or maybe He has answered you with the no instead of the yes you were hoping for and you may be thinking… why? I know I did…. I even asked why as I was writing this message… and it was as simple as it doesn’t matter how kind I am it’s how kind He is, has been, and will continue to be. The key is trust…do you trust God? Do you believe that perhaps He has left you in the dark, or is letting you go through the difficult situation, or has said no to you because He wants to do you a greater good that is going to greatly benefit you in the future? Well do you? It’s hard to trust when you can’t see but that is where faith comes in play. Have true faith and He will do great wonders in your life.

So Warrior of God take up this great weapon, Gods loving kindness, and use it in every battle. And yeah try hard to embody the same kindness that God has for you so that others may see His love in you and may also reap the amazing benefit of salvation.